For Anyone Who Got The Promotion And Lost The Plot Slightly

Congratulations, You Outrank Your Mates Now

The playbook for the promotion nobody warns you about, when the people you now manage are the same people you used to complain about your old boss to.

This is the full method for holding your ground without losing the friendship, plus every situation that actually comes up: the mate who tests you, the mate who goes cold, the mate who wanted your job too, and the difficult conversation you can't avoid forever.

The Honest Bit

What this actually is, and isn't.

It's not a guide to becoming a different, colder version of yourself, and it won't make the first few weeks stop feeling strange. It's the actual scripts I give clients, word for word in places, for the moment someone who used to be your equal treats you like one, and the four situations that come up again and again once you're the one signing off your mates' timesheets.

What's Inside

17 pages, The Foreman's Line, and the four mates situations that actually come up.

The Announcement, deciding what's changing and what isn't the week it happens, plus the one-sentence exercise for your closest mate.
The Foreman's Line, the full method behind everything else in this guide, Draw It Early, Same Round Different Rules, Hold It Once, with a worked example.
Your Worksheet, a fillable page for working out exactly who needs the conversation first, and what you'll actually say to them.
The One Who Tests You, public versus private, and the tell for which one you're actually looking at.
The One Who Goes Cold, what to do when someone you were properly close to just... stops.
The One Who Applied For Your Job Too, the wounded-pride conversation, and the tell that it's curdling into something worse.
The Difficult Conversation, performance-managing a friend properly, including when it needs to become a documented, HR-involved conversation.
The Repair, protecting the friendship over the months afterwards, not just the moment itself.
Quick Reference, every script from the guide on one page, for the version of you who's got ninety seconds before that conversation.

Who It's For

Anyone in property or construction who's just been handed a team full of their old mates.

If you've caught yourself rehearsing how to talk to someone you used to moan about deadlines with, this was written with you specifically in mind. None of it is about becoming colder, it's about being in charge exactly as you are.

What this is worth: twenty-two quid is less than an hour of a coach's time, and about the same as a decent bottle of something to bring round when you're not sure what else to say. One friendship that survives the promotion instead of quietly dying of awkwardness, one difficult conversation you actually have instead of avoiding for six months, and this has paid for itself before you've finished the worksheet. It won't feel like a big purchase. It might turn out to be one anyway.

£22 one-off

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